Today, I have two issues I would like to discuss. Two things that I need to get off of my chest or I will, in fact, explode.

Marriage and stereotypes.

This is gonna take a while.

Firstly, marriage. Rather, I believe it comes down to the lack of respect in today's society for the vow of commitment and not so much marriage. I have many clients who, when relaxing on 'their me time', really open up and start talking. Hairstylist equals therapist, one of the girls, and so on and so forth. I have had quite a few people say things about their personal relationships, but the other day one really crossed a line with me. She sat down in the chair practically squealing over a new co-worker that was, in her opinion, "fucking hot." Throughout her color process she talked about how badly she got tongue-tied around him because all she could think about was fucking him. When I was rinsing her color out, she finally came around to saying that he was married with children and that, although she was married too, if given the chance she would. I didn't say much during her time, knowing that if I opened my mouth something not so nice was going to come out. The envelope got pushed further today when a fellow stylist went to get lunch at the restaurant next door. They came back saying that the hottest man they had ever seen walked in...with his wife and two kids..."not that that mattered." Again, I bit my tongue.

I fully realize that some people have no morals, no code of ethic, but have people really become this fucking disgusting?! Also, I understand that they are not acting upon it, at least not to my knowledge, but is it necessary to be so outwardly and verbally disgraceful? I think what really gets me is that others laugh and encourage it. Am I the only one left that has any respect for being committed to something or someone? Then there are people, people that I look up to in a lot of aspects, that let me down with their thoughts on their marriages. They treat it as if their is no passion left, as if love goes more hand in hand with friendship than romance; if they had the chance they would change everything about their marriage and their mate. They tell me that when I get married I will understand, that I will feel that way after 10, 15, 25 years of being with the same person. Maybe I will. As I sit here now though, I say no. I am a far too passionate person to ever see myself letting emotion fade from anything I do. Becoming comfortable and content, yes. Disassociating, never.

Moving on to topic number two, stereotypes. Again, it is not stereotypes as a whole, but more so, stemming from my outrage on the whole marriage thing, the stereotypes placed on gender. There are so many women who come into the salon who just bitch and bitch and bitch about their significant others. He did this or he didn't do this. Wait, are we back in a time where your parents decided who you were going to marry? No, I don't think so. You knew exactly what you were getting into. It makes me laugh especially hard when I hear a women complain about a man's joking; "He's such a smartass over everything"...but I guarantee if you had asked that women a few years ago, she would have told you that his humor was why she fell in love with him. I think the worst out there is the stereotype about a man and his sports. I'm sorry, but I have been with a few guys who have gotten irritated at me for ignoring him when I'm busy yelling at the hockey game. Fuck you, don't talk to me when there is hockey on the TV. I know that there are a lot of stereotypes about women too, but I'm not going to sit here and point them out. Honestly, it would make me as bad as the rest of them. I wholeheartedly believe that you can think whatever you want about me in the stereotypical sense of a woman, but don't ever assume that I think the same negativity about you as a man.

I apologize for the longevity, and call me crazy if you will, but I had to get at least some of that out. Be glad that was all I wrote, because I have a lot more thoughts on these matters, but fortunately or unfortunately, I have work in the morning. With that being said, I bid you a goodnight!